More Money, More Problems
By: Dane Czaplicki
On a random weekday afternoon in DELCO, you can still spot it.
A familiar coffee shop.
Parents idling in cars during high school pickup.
A couple grabbing lunch who probably went to prom together.
For many of us who grew up here, life followed a recognizable arc. First job. First paycheck. First apartment. Friday nights that didn’t require reservations. Maybe dinner at Nifty Fifty’s with your high school sweetheart, splitting a milkshake and not thinking twice about it.
Back then, money decisions were light.
Not because we didn’t care—but because the stakes were low.
Fast forward a few decades and something changes.
The phrase “more money, more problems” starts to feel less like a punchline and more like an observation.
When Decisions Get Heavier
In your early years, financial choices were measured in hundreds or thousands.
A mistake was annoying, but survivable.
Time was on your side. Retirement was a distant concept. The future felt generous.
As income grew—from $50,000 to $150,000 to $500,000 and beyond—the decisions didn’t just get bigger. They got heavier.
Not because you became less capable.
But because the consequences expanded.
A $5,000 decision once felt like learning.
A $500,000 decision now feels like responsibility.
The End of “Set It and Forget It”
Many people in their 20s are told to “set it and forget it,” and for good reason. When life is simple and time is long, simplicity works.
But midlife has a way of collapsing time.
Retirement, once theoretical, starts standing closer than expected.
College tuition stops being an abstract future number.
Aging parents move from “doing fine” to “needing support.”
Kids—still your kids, even when they’re technically adults—start asking different questions.
Suddenly, the strategies that once felt sufficient start to feel incomplete.
Not broken.
Just insufficient.
When Money Decisions Stop Being Just About You
There’s a moment—usually quiet—when financial decisions stop being personal and start being communal.
You’re no longer deciding only for yourself.
You’re deciding for a household.
For children who are watching more than you think.
For parents who may need help navigating the next chapter.
For a future version of yourself you haven’t fully met yet.
Money begins to intersect with time, energy, and family dynamics in ways it never did before.
And that’s when decisions start to feel heavier—even if your balance sheet looks strong.
Excess Cash Flow: An Unexpected Challenge
One of the least discussed transitions is the shift from scarcity to surplus.
When there was no excess cash flow, decisions were straightforward.
Invest. Pay bills. Move on.
Now, there’s room. And room creates questions.
Should you invest more?
De-risk?
Pay down debt?
Upgrade your lifestyle?
Help family?
Hold flexibility?
None of these are bad questions.
But having too many good options can be paralyzing.
Abundance doesn’t eliminate uncertainty.
It changes its shape.
From Survival to Stewardship
Early on, financial planning is about survival and momentum.
Don’t fall behind.
Build consistency.
Keep moving forward.
Midlife introduces a different responsibility: stewardship.
What is this wealth actually for?
How does it support the life you’re building now—not just later?
How do your investment decisions align with your time, your values, and your family?
Returns still matter.
But they’re no longer the only metric.
Why It Feels Harder—Even Though You’re Smarter
It can feel frustrating to realize that financial decisions feel more complex now than they did years ago, despite more experience and success.
But that’s not a failure of judgment.
It’s awareness.
You see second- and third-order consequences now.
You understand tradeoffs.
You recognize that every decision closes some doors while opening others.
That weight isn’t fear.
It’s maturity.
A Subtle Reframe
More money doesn’t create problems.
It reveals responsibility.
The old playbook didn’t fail.
You outgrew it.
At some point, the question quietly shifts from “How do I grow this?”
to “How do I want this to support the life I’m living—and the people I care about?”
That shift isn’t talked about much.
But around here—in coffee shops, on sidelines, and during late-night conversations—it’s more common than people admit.
And recognizing it is often the first step toward clarity.
About the Author
Dane Czaplicki, CFA®
Dane Czaplicki is CEO of Members’ Wealth, a boutique wealth management firm that offers a comprehensive approach to serving individuals, families, business owners, and institutions. The firm’s goal is to preserve and grow its clients’ wealth to endure over time, while thoughtfully evolving its strategy to suit an ever-changing world. With over 20 years of wealth management experience, Dane and the Members' Wealth team thrive on bringing clarity and confidence to clients' unique situations. He believes everyone needs sound financial advice from someone whose interests are aligned with theirs, and is determined to put service before all else.
Dane received his MBA from The Wharton School of Business at the University of Pennsylvania and his bachelor’s degree from Bloomsburg University. Outside work, he enjoys spending time with his wife and kids, hiking and camping, reading, running, and playing with his dog. To learn more about Dane, connect with him on LinkedIn.
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